Let’s face it: For many people in the LGBTQ+ community, dating apps are a necessary evil. Necessary in that they make it easier to meet others around you, but evil in that they are are often a breeding (and not in a good way) ground for superficiality, so-called “preferences” that are almost always low key forms of racism, and ghosting.
In other words, dating apps are basically the holy trinity of everything that is wrong with society, and yet, nearly everyone uses them, including people (like me!) who are disabled. For many disabled folk, dating apps can be a godsend. They allow us a chance to talk to people who, quite frankly, may not give us a second glance IRL (unless of course they are staring at us, but it’s usually not for the reason we want them to stare). It’s harsh, but true.
So how can non-disabled people go about talking to folks who are disabled on apps without making a complete asshat of themselves? Well, I’m glad you asked! Below are just a few tips I (a very disabled fellow) have, with help from my boyfriend (who is not disabled), and a sex expert (who I don’t think is disabled, but who knows because we only legit talked over email?)…
rustyiam
Is it wrong that I had a one night stand with a disabled vet once because I felt compassion for him?
Brian
I once hooked up with a guy named Hansel just to be able to say I had sex with Hansel.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Sorry Josh epic failure, stop the bullshiit about preferences being a form of “racism” Everyone is entitled to be with whom they are attracted to. As long as you don’t state so as an attack or hatred you are perfectly entitled to do so….
If someone isn’t attracted to you put on your big boy pants and move on to the next profile…