On Sunday, porn star Tegan Zayne penned a long Twitter post that accused adult performer Topher DiMaggio of rape.
He says he did it to address a serious issue in the gay adult industry that is often ignored.
In the post, Zayne tells a story revolving around a scene both actors filmed for Cocky Boys two years ago.
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He claims DiMaggio strongly pressured him into having sex the night before they filmed the scene.
Zayne says he felt “belittled and degraded” by the experience and was “told how I’m such a girl.”
“I’ve seen a lot of stories come out about the metoo thing,” he writes, “but it’s (sic) feels like no one cares about the male victims, or the sex workers. As someone else said “rape doesn’t exist in this line of wrk”, and it couldn’t be more true.”
DiMaggio denies this ever happened.
“He’s crazy and twists stories,” DiMaggio tells QueerMeNow.
“He was so happy to film with me even the next day. It’s sad. I’m not going to give it any attention.”
https://twitter.com/TeganZayne/status/955106149073866753?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw&ref_url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.towleroad.com%2F2018%2F01%2Ftegan-zayne-topher-dimaggio%2F
Here’s Zayne’s lengthy Twitter note:
Here’s a preview of the Cocky Boys scene in question:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ot7r3S8KWqA
Brody
Regardless of how desperate this guy is to be construed the victim, consensual sex is not rape, no matter how disagreeable he might find it after the fact.
CJones01
Teagan wakes up , greets Topher. Topher allegedly pressures Teagan for sex until Teagan relents. Teagan doesn’t want Topher to ejaculate inside of him, but it happens anyway.
Coercion does not equal consent. If I pester and badger you into helping me move, would you be happy? Probably not. Would you feel like you had power in that situation? Probably not. Would you feel like you helped me under your own volition? Probably not.
Doing something that your partner specifically said was off limits is definitely violating consent.
Brody
CJ –
Taking your scenario into consideration . . . if I helped you move even if I didn’t want to, does that give me the right to file charges against you the next day for kidnapping and enslavement? Because I was too weak or stupid (or something) to actually say “No” and walk away, then I must be a victim? It certainly seems to be what you’re suggesting.
Sorry, but your example carries with it no logic. These two had consensual sex, and one of them was resentful. I’m sure a similar situation has occurred in both your life and mine that didn’t result in accusations of rape.
Juanjo
It is always amusing when trolls decide to discuss what the legal standard is for sexual assault. Given they are trolls and barely educated.
Greg
Maybe he’s upset because Topher didn’t wine and dine him afterward?
Bromancer7
No matter how much someone pesters and badgers you once you say “oh ok” it’s consent, plain and simple. He wasn’t held down or bound, unable to fight off the attack. He had the ability to end it at any time, but he made the conscious decision that it was easier to just go along with it. This is consent.
This is the line we need to draw, and be very cognizant about not conflating one with the other.
Now cumming inside him after he explicitly said not to, well, it ain’t right, but it’s not rape.
ChrisK
” I need to save myself for tomorrow. Just don’t cum in me.”. Yeah, because that’s exactly what every rape victim says before. Lol
I do get the mean dick sucking comments. I mean that it abuse.
Bob LaBlah
Victim your ass. He barebacked and cream pied you (based on what you said) criticized how you sucked dick and went out of his way to humiliate you but STILL you stuck around? Granted the YMCA sized room you were in was suitable for you two to get to know each other and because of his star power Topher was royalty compared to you but was it really worth all of that? If you were that hot and had any respect for yourself you would have put your panties on and switched out of that room faster than a hot twink would have fled a locker room filled with men over forty. I mean really, you sound like a nearly homeless twink who did this out of desperation for a place to crash for a few days while knowing damn will how you were being treated the entire time. How much were you paid and was it worth the obvious trauma that you seemed to be the only one who feels you suffered?
Bob LaBlah
There was a clear attempt to humiliate Beaux Banks (a cute interracial twink) by making it clear he wasn’t clean enough to have his salad tossed. I do mean it was obvious the scene was set up to humiliate the poor kid. Were he THAT not ready (as the actor indicated when Banks was in a position where he couldn’t see the actors face) it seems hard to believe the scene would have continued to be filmed. Porn and its inhabitants are what they are. The desperate looking for fame and those who are hellbent on ruining the careers of rising stars.
Ari Gold
Coercion isn’t rape if you’re not under duress. And from the sound of this tale, there was no duress. Tegan is branding Topher as a rapist simply because he was too much of a puss to say NO and actually mean it.
barkomatic
I think some have missed an important part of the story. While the guy sounds like he willingly (though reluctantly) had sex with him he also asked that he not cum inside him–and he did anyway. He expressly asked that not happen.
I’m not sure if that’s sexual assault, since if you’re not using a condom a guy doesn’t have 100% control over when he ejaculates. It’s a bit of a gray area.
If you don’t want a guy to cum in you, then it’s better to have him wear a condom to make sure in case he can’t pull out in time, or just gets overly passionate and doesn’t.
Brian
It’s not a gray area. If you let a guy bareback you, you might get a load up your ass. If you don’t want that, don’t allow a guy to bareback you. It’s REMARKABLY simple.
Sam6969
The top is a PROFESSIONAL PORN ACTOR, so he knows how to control himself. Clearly, he came inside of him on purpose.
Moooo
In some countries it is sexual assault. Not in the US it’s a risk you take from barebacking
Juanjo
The fact is that all we have is an accusation and a denial. Supposedly others were told about this at the time and it would be interesting to see what they had to say. Sexual assault is a serious issue and should be taken seriously. But that does not mean jumping to conclusions based on no real basis for doing so.
Rex Huskey
shut up you fool
Brian
Seriously, shut up. This is the internet, not a courtroom. We can jump to whatever conclusions we like,
Paco
The video clip could easily pass for satire.
MacAdvisor
By chance, Topher lives next door to my best friend and his husband (let’s call them “B&C”). Topher is a kind, thoughtful neighbor. His parties never go too late and he helps out around the very small HOA. His parking space is right next to B&C’s and he never strays into their space or dings their car. I stay at B&C’s whenever I am in LA and keep hoping to run into him, but the closest I’ve managed is to see him jog by on the sidewalk shirtless while I was looking out the window.
derek mcgillicuddy
“He never strays into their [parking] space….” Now there is a man with integrity.
derek mcgillicuddy
It is “Zayne’s” mistake to have expected honourable behaviour from a prostitue/pornographer.
heath0043
Topher, has to me, always come across as an arrogant ass hole. Weather or not this is rape I can’t say. But I have seen Topher in interviews and Q&As where he has said that gay people are not like other people and should do what they want and take what they want when it comes to sex. Andrew Christian has been using him in “ads” where he gets asked questions from a straight perspective, and he answers so rudely and crudely that it gives most gays a bad image.
frankcar1965
You actually watch interviews and Q&As with porn performers?!!! I think you need to get out more, besides it’s PORN don’t you think the vast majority are arrogant and attention whores?
Brian
Really? You can’t read the “victim’s” account of what happened and say whether it was rape or not when he willingly agreed to let this persistent guy fvck him in the ass bareback, with no threat or fear for his safety?
I can. This is not rape. This is not 1000 miles near what rape is.
queerT
Somebody needs attention
Bob LaBlah
She comes off as being worth more than she is getting to you too, huh? lol lol She just blew her chance for a bigger payday doing bareback breeding porn and as for those who jump on that “I was raped on a gay porn shoot where I was one of the safe sex twink bottoms who got banged by everyone in the video” band wagon you guys are going to find it hard to find work in porn. lol lol
OzJosh
“Just don’t cum in me” would be taken as consent in any court of law.
hwc2016
mmmmm he told the guy not to cum in him, but didn’t have enough sense to grab a condom?
frankcar1965
Of course this all hinges on whether the situation took place at all. That’s always hard to decide in he said/he said cases. And if it did take place, why has he not brought charges especially in the present climate? How do we know that ANY of the #METOO accusations took place if they were not actually confessed to? We don’t. Could you convict just on the statement of just one of the parties that were there? How would you know for sure? Just because SEEMED to be telling the truth? What about if there was just bad feelings between them and one decided to get even? I don’t think I could and probably wouldn’t. I would be just too risky. And the “victims” have often fabricated the incident despite the false notion that NO ONE ever lies about rape. I have a long list of “rapes” that were recanted from newspaper headlines and it is a long one, and it’s just the ones that were reported.
And let’s get real, these “adult film performers” are really just legalized prostitutes, not that I don’t watch them too!
mz.sam
That’s HOT! Rape or not…its all porn consensual no matter which way one is cumming or going. WHOO…HOO!!!
da90027
Is this satire?
A hooker walks into the police station and says she has been raped.
Desk Sargent says what makes you think you’ve been raped you are a hooker.
Hooker says: The check bounced
AntBee
Hi Derek Anthony! I am a huge fan of yours! I am surprised no one caught on that you are/were you posting here.
I hope to see you in more TIM stuff, soon!
BTW, do you still have that beautiful Cadillac convertible?
bigrobert
I am with Tegan zatye he needs to be and jail. Tegan I with you I love you and I here I love washing your shows you do I love to be and your show with you doing want you doing 1-309-868-5207 cell me Tegan. Tegan I hope you win this and topher get put behand bars for is. Tegan zatye I love you men my dream is two work with you doing porn
Bob LaBlah
Why do I get the impression your soliciting unsuspecting fools for phone scams? You love “washing ” a show? Do you scam for IRS back taxes or weight loss diets?
chris33133
When you’re coerced into agreeing to something, it’s not called consent; it’s called coercion. If Zayne started by saying “no,” which he claims he did, then I think he was raped. And no, it doesn’t matter that he works in the porn industry. There’s establish law on that lame way of excusing rape. ….. Judging from the comments here, I may be the only person who thinks so.
Brian
Here is the definition of coercion – the practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats.
He wasn’t coerced, he relented and said yes to a pushy guy. It may not be cool to be pushy and try to talk someone into bed, but it’s certainly not illegal in a personal situation.
Sam6969
Chris33133, you are not the only to think like that. I agree with you and I should add it is not because people deal differently with abuse that it is not rape by coercion. The fact he is in the porn industry does not change that fact, even if as a professional he has specific defense strategies and ways of dealing with sexual violence. Still, he is a human being and suffer from not being respected and heard.
Most people here have bad judgement. It is not a surprise.
Moooo
You can think it as much as you want. It’s not rape. It was consensual. That’s what the law says and Zayne knows he wasn’t raped. This is a slap in the face to real rape survivors
bushwickfreddy
It’s getting a bit insane that people feel completely comfortable screaming rape and not getting authorities involved…..
shakes_head
You must not know what it’s like for victims of rape to actually get justice. It’s rare, even with all the evidence (Brock Turner), and all you get is your name dragged through the mud and personal denials by everybody and anybody who wasn’t even involved (see above comments or any public rape/sexual assault case ever)
Paco
“Being a professional whore…”
Erm, ok.
He wasn’t drugged, beat and held down, tied up. He could have pushed the guy away and walked out. I agree it was coercion because he was supposed to have sex with the guy for money on camera the next day and probably did not want to jeopardize that, but I don’t qualify what he describes as being rape.
No does mean no, but you also have a responsibility to make it mean no. Stop being a victim and stand up for yourself.
Facebook and Twitter “Justice” should only be used after the real justice system fails you.
jhon_siders
The thing I find had to believe is that Topher is a top ?? he comes off as a flaming queen bottom !!
batesmotel
Yeah I agree he kind is struck me as more a bottom trying to pass as a top.
Greg
All he had to do is say he wasn’t in the mood when Topher came home at 1 am. If Topher somehow forced him after he was clearly and definitely NO, then it would be considered raip. But it sounds like he reluctantly consented. If he didn’t want Topher to cum in him, he should have made him wear a condom. You can’t be such a passive bottom and then complain about it the next day. Also, if Topher complained about his sucking, he should maybe take a refresher course. He says maybe he wasn’t raiped and maybe he liked it? Raip is an act of violence. How was the encounter violent? Doesn’t he know if he liked it or not? He says don’t let people tell you how to feel. That doesn’t just go for afterward, that goes for before too. If he didn’t want to fool around, he didn’t have to. If he didn’t want Topher to do him because he hadn’t cleaned out, he shouldn’t have let him in. If he didn’t want Topher to cum in him, he should have made him wear a condom or don’t turn over for him. He calls himself a “Professional Whore”. A professional wouldn’t find themselves wondering 2 years later if he had been raiped. He, himself says “as someone else said, ‘raip doesn’t exist in this line of work'” and he says it couldn’t be more true. So what’s he complaining about? Topher can do me any time he likes.
Brian
Raip?
Greg
I thought my comment was being censored for using rape, so I changed the spelling.
whitakerk861
I call BS. If you said, “Just don’t cum in me,” then you consented in this roommate situation. You could have easily fended him off. Not saying it would’ve been easy; however, you had the chance to walk out and you say, “just don’t cum in me.” Yes, I concur that rape victims have said the same but you could have fended him off. Many rape victims do not have that chance.
Brian
Actually, it sounds like it would have been really easy. He just had to give a firm no and end the conversation. Even obnoxious guys should be given the benefit of the doubt that they’re not rapists.
Rex Huskey
you play with fire you’re gonna get f*cked.
Rex Huskey
I predict a suicide soon….
Tombear
My BS detector is pegging!
SPEEDOSWIMMER
I’d love to be their bareback bottom in a 3-way.
SPEEDOSWIMMER
I’d love to be their bareback bottom with both of them. Yum!
seaguy
Topher has always struck me as being a guy who knows he is hot and it’s gone to his head so he walks around acting like his S*it don’t stink. Guy’s like that tend to let that go to their head and start thinking they can get away with things like bullying a costar, raping them, sexually assaulting them. Cause they are untouchable and no one would believe the victim over them. They are the guys in high school who have rich parents, good looks and they think they are above the law. I get the feeling Topher is that way in the gay porn industry rather than high school.
Sam6969
yes and other comments on this page dismissing Tegan Zayne’s testimonial are disgusting.
truckproductions
After reading his entire tweet instead of just the article text, I think he has a valid point. If you can’t stop someone from invading your space/body by saying no, then why are we telling this to girls everyday?
Jaroslaw
Truck – i wish i had thought of what you said. Absolutely read the whole tweet and no means no. Taking advantage of someone when they are half asleep and belittling them to get what you want sounds like rape to me.
Sam6969
I hope Tegan Zayne will never read this page full of disgusting comments. Most people here are ignorant and confused with the notions of rape by coercion and the way to handle it. Some people like Tegan, particularly because they are professional porn actors, deal with it by compromising with the present moment and the person. It is their defense mechanism. It does not change the fact he repeatedly said no in the first place and the other insisted and even did not respect to not cum inside (Topher could control himself as a professional).
So Tegan Zayne was certainly raped by coercion and he has my full support. Shame on all the victim blamers.
Goforit
Thank you Sam. I to am disgusted by most of the comments in this thread. Any time someone in authority (such as a porn star) uses that authority to coerce another (such as a newbie porn performer) into a sexual situation, it is rape. None of us have enough information on this case to take a side. But Topher did have the power to negatively affect Tegans future in this industry. No matter who you believe, neither of them deserves to be dismissed as an “attention whore” Obviously the “MeToo” movement has a lot more educating to do.
Moooo
Sam first of all if you are going to slam people for pointing out the obvious, you need to get a dictionary to figure out what coerce means. It means to pressure somebody to do something by force or threat. He himself never said he forced him and I didn’t hear a threat. If he said “have sex with me or I am going to make you” or “have sex with me or else” then that’s not rape by coercion. That’s not what happened. Topher asked him twice and then he said yes. That’s not rape that is consent. so no he wasn’t raped. Maybe pressured but he should have removed himself from that situation or said stop. He didn’t. This was bad sex regrets at the least and attention seeking behavior at the most. Not every bad sexual experience is rape and before you try and clap back and tell me I should be ahsamed of myself, I am a rape survivor so I know what it’s like to be forced by violence to have sex with somebody!
Greg
Topher could have insisted until the sun came up. Tegan didn’t have to give in.
Moooo
As a survivor of childhood rape myself, What Tegan described was NOT Rape and he really ought to be ashamed of himself for tying to get in on the #MeToo movement. He approached, asked he said no becuse he wasn’t clean, Topher said he didn’t care about that and he said “just don’t cum in me”. No sweets you weren’t rape, you are regretting having sex with a dirty hole. That’s what this is. Then for you to say you don’t want your story repeated and effeivley that you don’t want people to call Topher out on this is proof that I truly believe you are doing this for attention. This is Aziz Ansari all over again. You really ought to be ahsamed of yourself and yes I am shaming him becuse he’s not a victim! And people who don’t understand what the true definition of rape should really do your research. Nope sorry, not rape. A story of bad sex by a douchebag at most.
Sam6969
Moooo
First of all, I am sorry for what you had to live in your childhood.
However, it is not a contest, based on who suffered the most and who shouted the most explicitly ‘no!’. There is not two camps: the clear cut cases, where the victim struggled, throwing a tantrum or simply being underage, and the others, who did the best they could to deal with the bestiality of the aggressor. All of them can have been raped and suffered from being abused.
When Tegan Zayne repeatedly said no and used the excuse of not being clean, it was obviously a way for him to say no without rejecting his friend (at the time), because he has the kind of personality that does not want to feel cut off from people he feels close to. He uses diverting ways to express his disagreement. Anyway, a “no” is a “no”, whether the reason used is clear or not.
When you write: “So he was not raped. Maybe pressured but he should have removed himself from that situation or said stop”. That is very insensitive of you to write that. You suppose that every victim can easily do that? Well, it depends on the personality of the victim. You are projecting yourself in this situation, with your assumptions of what a good reaction should be.
In addition, he obviously said “no cum inside”, based on the fact he wanted to minimize the trouble of the situation. Considering your binary way of thinking, I understand this strategy (and the variety of the ways victims deal with abuse) is hard for you to understand.
I think you should read more carefully what is said here on Rape:
https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/rape/what-is-rape-was-i-raped/
I also think in the US you have a long way to go before understanding all those notions. Another reason why the #Metoo movement is so important for raising consciousness.