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I cheated on my wife. I used people to make me feel better. I was callous and inconsiderate with people and their emotions and their well-being. I wanted what I wanted and I was going to take it at any cost, even if it was at an emotional cost of someone else. And that is shitty behavior. There are things in my behavior that I have to take accountability for, because that is pivotal for me learning and growing from it.
Former actor Armie Hammer speaking to Bill Maher about being canceled in 2021 amid allegations of sexual abuse and cannibalism.
…If somebody looks at any behavior and goes ‘I don’t like that,’ that’s OK. By the way, all of my gay friends were like, ‘Honey, I saw your text messages. That’s it?!’ They go, ‘Oh my god, if people hacked into Grindr and put Grindr chats public, none of us would have jobs anymore.’
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A brief timeline of Armie Hammer’s wild cannibal controversy & abuse allegations
With Hammer addressing his “career death” on a recent podcast, here’s a look back at the timeline of his controversies & allegations.
barryaksarben
well, that was callous and inconsiderate. douchebag. I have never seen anyone ask for someone to eat them. now I understand on the dark web that may go on but not anymore than in straight society. Boy wee cant even count on our supposed friends not to throw us under the bus
still_onthemark
An hour and a half in Bill Maher’s pot-smoke-filled Club Random room? Armie must have got the “munchies”…
jp47
Seems Armie’s so-called “gay friends” keep him up to date on gay hook up apps, or does he know about that more personally?
Ken A.
He’ll be back. It was stupid to “cancel” in the first place.
bbg372
Hammer is absolutely right. He was effectively cancelled for having fantasies of which others did not approve. He expressed those fantasies privately with his intimate partners during sexually-charged conversations, which they then shared after he ended their relationships. All of those women pretended to want Christian Grey when they thought they were Anastasia Steele. It was only after he left them, that suddenly they were coerced and abused, and he was Hannibal Lecter. He is being unfairly pilloried by straight people for what are essentially thought crimes. It is just kink shaming.
Donston
Definitely could have left the “gaze” out of this nonsense. Attempting to throw a demo under the bus to defend your own stuff is rather tacky. Also, we all know Grindr is a hot mess.
Godabed
Keep in mind Armie would be hanging around rich white gays.
OzJay
What happened to Armie says more about our dumb, twisted, out-of-control media/social media than it does about him. He was no more a cannibal than any mother who nibbles on her baby’s toes and says “I could eat you up”. It’s an endearment, an expression of passion and desire – not a statement of intent. If the way Armie expressed himself made his partners uncomfortable, then it was up to them to tell him so or leave. But whipping it up into a media frenzy, as though he was intending to indulge in actual cannibalism makes them the douchebags, not Armie.
spiralx
Curious that he compares himself to Grindr, rather than Tinder, say. Is he still harbouring an “I’m special and deserving” sense of his sexual preferences? Regardless: as he says, he has a lot of steady work still to do. Best to leave him to it.
mikhailmaui
Spiralx, he is not comparing himself to Grindr, his gay friends are. And he is correct… if all the Grindr conversations were exposed, they would make his little foray into fantasy look like a weekend at Disney.
Tom
Look at that gorgeous face and voice. He’s so fione.
Slash
Armie was canceled for being kinky after he admittedly dumped several women who he bored of. It appears these women very consensually spent time with him for extended periods but only cried foul after he moved on. Armie is a massive overdose of white male privilege but it appears no prosecutable evidence was found and I want him back making movies now! Side note, maybe its just me but I think Bill was not just “bro fun” propositioning Armie, but was hoping to get a little action now that he knows Armie is a little wild.
Nosso Crankee
Arnie should not have been canceled for expressing his carnal kinks and interests, but he had the sad misfortune of being an a man who embraced his feral sexual hunger, a rutt fukkn dikkdawg ( a trait myself and MANY of my friends and partners find immensely attractive in a man) in an arena wherein the same is TABOO ( the world of straight white women with no true libidinal drive).
If he’d been born gay instead of straight he’d never have run into a vast jury of shrill, shallow peers who felt the need to break his male spirit because he refused to be subdued and corralled by screaming women.