There are virtually no scenarios that make having a “secret relationship” anywhere near acceptable. Relationships work when they have room to breathe, to fume, to grow.
Keeping things secret — whether one party is in the closet or married or in another primary relationship — is like a pressure cooker of conflict.
It might not be today or tomorrow or even next week, but at some point, something’s gonna blow.
Below, guys let off a little steam about their secret relationship predicaments on Whisper:
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JerseyMike
Secret relationships can and do work.. Our great-grand fathers, grandfathers and so on had their best friends and buddies who were more than just best friends. These relationships still exist. Not everyone wants the conventional gay relationship.
Kangol
WHISPER! One of Queerty’s fave sources. Of course none of these people might be gay or in secret relationships or anything else, but anyone who’s signed up for Whisper (thanks for the free advertising, Queerty!) can post anything and may eventually end up on…Queerty!
Jack Meoff
The way some of these are worded makes them sound suspect like they were written by a straight person or something. I suspect most everything on whisper is faked.
Scribe38
Just not going to date a guy in the closet. If you have to keep me a secret, the relationship just isn’t worth being in for me.