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For years now, a Grindr conversation has been delighting social media users—and it might just be the most consequential hookup let-down you’ve ever seen.
“Hi, are you a top?” one Grindr user says.
“Hey,” the screenshot-er replies. “No, sorry.”
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Then comes the kicker: “Never, never ever apologize for being yourself,” the first user says. “That’s how the straights kept us down for a hundred years.”
We previously highlighted this conversation back in May 2020. (Remember those early lockdown days?) And the same two screenshots just resurfaced recently on the r/gay_irl Reddit forum, where they’ve received nearly 1,400 upvotes at the time of this writing.
It’s become a gay internet classic!
“Damn… that’s wholesome,” one Reddit user commented. “I wish i could get messages like that…”
Someone else said, “Actual king sh*t.”
And a third person said. “Not all heroes wear capes.”
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“No response is indeed a response.”
We may never know who this affirming hero was: As far as we can tell, the earliest online record of this chat was when Instagram user @grindrmeme posted it in July 2018, but the source remains a mystery.
Regardless, we think these two bottoms would agree that their three-minute interaction had a bigger legacy than any one-time hookup.
Here are a few more reactions to the bottom hero summit:
What an amazing individual. I feel warm and fuzzy reading this.
— Havoc (@_Havoc_Hyena) May 18, 2020
hope he found his top
— Luke (@lem0nrat) May 18, 2020
Date him anyway. You'll figure something out.
— Yachirobi (@yachirobi) May 18, 2020
Wish that king well
— Solidus Red (@ABetterRed) May 18, 2020
Aw protect him at all cost 🥺
— OFFICIAL (PARODY) 🏳️🌈 (@TheChucklingMo) May 18, 2020
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Epic Grindr Chat !!!
Hi, Are you a top ?
Hi, Are you a bottom ?
THE BEST EPIC GRINDR CHAT IS !!!
Hi, What are you into ?
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hey Marc, obviously you cant understand what Im writh=ing as you missed the entire epic part. it wasn’t the top question or the response it was the dont apologise part. the fact that he was wrong in one little point of fact the straights have been using this type of insults to keep us down for far longer than a hundred years. They try to convince everyone that the feminine is lesser than so to be looked down on which is total B – S. Ive love to point out there are NO tops if there are no bottoms and unless you are one of the very few flexible enough to do yourself you need one or the other or a both have toys to replace the other but everyone kn owns they are a shadow of a person